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Through Self Awareness: Change core beliefs, emotional reactions, and create love and happiness in your relationships

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Last news: June 12, 2008 20:48:49

When it comes to changing your mind it is critical to first gain awareness of what you are dealing with. Without that Situational Awareness you will likely attempt to change things that are only symptoms. Because you don’t perceive the larger picture, you end up wasting a lot of energy on processes that don’t work effectively.

What is awareness and what does it have to do with changing your behaviors, habits and emotions? A good part of awareness has to do with... - [Read more]

Oh what a difference a point of view makes…

Dear Gary,

I have an experience to share instead of asking a question this time.

I was doing the journal exercise and looking at a particularly intense recent emotional experience. I sensed that I was hitting on some very strong beliefs and even though I could journal out a lot of what was going on in my head, assign it to the various parts of my ego, I still found myself stuck in that point of view.... - [Read more]

Consciousness

There’s a lot we could say about what this brain researcher realized about the mind during her stroke, and her recovery. One point is that we have many different modalities with which to perceive the world. Whether we define our self by the limit of our bodies, or as a field of consciousness, changes how and what we perceive. Jill Bolte Taylor experienced a stroke. As a brain researcher she got to experience more than just the brain, but also the mind,... - [Read more]

Faster Personal Changes

When a person engages in personal and spiritual growth practices they often begin with reading and gathering knowledge. This is a good place to start for background information. However the knowledge approach has limited potential for change. It can also be relatively slow.

Real life changes in emotions and behavior don’t happen just because you have knowledge. When you decide to speed up your personal process and make real... - [Read more]

We have cats. By their instinctive nature they chase things. Humans aren’t much different. Once in a while we will take out a pen sized laser pointer and put a red dot on the floor. The cats go after it. We point the laser light up and down the hallway and the cats chase the red dot reflecting on the floor. Humans aren’t much different. Their mind asks questions and then they go spinning in circles trying to find answers. They end up feeling trapped but don’t know by... - [Read more]

Understanding the Mind

As humans we live in two worlds. There is the external physical world of work, family and friends that we travel in. Then there is the world of our mind and imagination. It is a virtual reality that can appear and feel just as real. When it comes to your emotions the virtual world of your mind can be more real.

If you are seeking to create greater fulfillment and happiness in your life most sources will point to making changes in... - [Read more]

With your words you have the power to lift people up and inspire them towards love. You also have the power to put them down. When you believe the words of another you are using your power to create your own emotional suffering. When we are children we do not learn how to use this power. By the time we are teenagers we use our words out of habit and do not know what we do.

You have the power to create happiness through the expression of love and truth. You also have the... - [Read more]

Happiness is the emotional experience created by you expressing the emotion of love. In every moment of joy and peace in your life you were creating love and expressing it. Feeling different qualities of happiness at different times is because there are millions of variations of love that you can express.

Have you taken time to contemplate where your emotions come from? Actually they don’t come from anywhere. You create them. When you create sadness you then feel the... - [Read more]

Self Judgment for Not Breaking the Pattern of Self Judgment

David had a relationship break up about 5 years ago. In the aftermath he felt miserable. The voices in his head were kicking in with a lot of harsh self judgments, at least harsher than usual. It wasn’t an entirely new dynamic, but the amplified self criticisms of being a loser, “nobody will... - [Read more]

How to deal with a Liar

The most important aspect to master when dealing with a liar is your emotional reactions. You can’t always change the behavior of a liar, but you can change how you feel and react to them. Once you learn to change your emotions about a situation you begin to see a lot more options.

If you are honest with the situation you will realize that your happiness is more important than their behavior anyways. The motivator for wanting... - [Read more]

A woman was doing some research on Happiness for a school project and had a few questions for me. I typed up the answers to her questions on happiness and thought I would post them here.

What is your definition of happiness?

Happiness is a state of emotion. Happiness can be experienced in many different variations such as euphoric laughter, the spiritual bliss of overwhelming love, or just a calm quiet peace. One indicator of happiness is how little... - [Read more]

Hi Gary,

I have been hearing a lot about LSD lately and the effects of it on the mind and how it can expand consciousness. From what I heard it can give you the same results as years of self mastery work and meditation. It sounds pretty far fetched. I was just wondering what you think about using LSD or other drugs to advance consciousness on this spiritual journey.
Being Curious AJ

Hi AJ

Drugs can have an... - [Read more]

Ask Gary

I would really appreciate your help with a question. I’m graduating from high school this year and trying to figure out what I should do.

When reading about your background, I noticed that you have a degree in Mechanical Engineering. I have been accepted to a University for that very program. I’m going into engineering because of the many doors it opens and for the money but I don’t feel optimistic about it. I think I... - [Read more]

There is a lot of talk about the importance of focusing on the positive. There is certainly value in focusing your attention on the positive. However, like anything, too much of a good thing, can work against you. There are times when it is valuable to focus your attention on the negative.

The idea being pedaled is to stay positive about your goals, and don’t let the negative distract you.  I’m familiar with the examples used to illustrate the point, but it... - [Read more]